10.16.15

Cow farm+Sunhats

Today Beatrice and I went out to the local organic milk farm not to far from where we live. We enjoy watching the cows and seeing all the farm land. Its a quick stop but every time we pull up I hear sweet chatter from the back talking about the cows and her favorite chocolate milk. The next time we go they offered to let us see the cows being milked! What a wonderful opportunity for the both of us to learn and be outside together.

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Its been a rough week for the both of us with potty training and not always being patient with each other. I find myself placing blame on who I am as a mother when I think I have failed her in some way or another. Sometimes bringing me to tears. So here are some  thoughts running through my head today from the words of “William Martin.” Do not slip into the downward spiral of blame, shame, and control. It doesn’t work. Reflecting on these words this afternoon and asking myself these deep questions: 

Can I love my child for who they are without controlling everything they do?

Can I let go of how “I think my child should act” and accept them for who they are?

Can I let go of what a perfect day or life looks like?

Yes, yes we can. Because this life we live is full of opportunities to flourish and nourish our lives and our children’s. To show them the true meaning of forgiveness, a warm hand to hold, and how to express emotions through feeling life in a real way. No one wins a prize for the perfect cleaned house, no one feels peace without letting go of control, and no one gets further in life by blaming ourselves for all our failures. Life is meant to be lived and felt so that we may flourish and be a life giving source to our children and those around us.

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Our children see how we handle failure, they sense how we either open up or stuff are feelings. They sense it all. So don’t be afraid to let them see the real you. Show them forgiveness by forgiving yourself, show them peace by holding there hand and reading a book together, show them life is not meant to take us further away from who we are but in fact everyday we move a little closer to who we are, who we were created to be and the purpose behind it all. Show them redemption and restoration is always at our finger tips because we never lose who we are, we just stray away sometimes. You can find me tonight re~reading these words over and over again till I believe them with all my heart! 😉

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As a mother how can you loosen up on controlling the closest things in your life? What do you want your children to know and feel in this life? For me it means taking many deep breaths during the day, and bringing myself back to the present moment, not looking for whats up ahead but staying focused on the here and now. Less control=more peace, less blame=more freedom to love yourself, less shame=I am enough and I am accepted just the way I am.

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Press on Mamas, and when it gets hard, keep going because we are here and were doing this beautiful thing called “Motherhood” and its a wild ride. Take time to breathe, to surrender control, and let yourself feel peace and joy today even in the midst of your chaos.

Comments

  1. Autumn says:

    Your words are so inspirational. The simple life you live with your sweet baby girl is wonderful. Keep doing what your doing!

  2. jayprimroseblog says:

    Beautiful words! I feel like I needed to hear that today 🙂 and your daughter is so adorable, what a cute outfit too!!!

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